There is always something that we can build on and make better. Always. It’s very easy to look at another individual and see what is flawed in them. It’s very easy to judge and critique. The difficulty comes in looking into our own lives and being able to identify our own flaws to work on. I believe this is because we feel vulnerable in those areas and seek to bury them so the world does not know. In doing so we actually highlight them. Through self-assessment, planning and executing, and connecting with others, we are able to effectively change our flaws into strength.  ​

Self-Assessment 
If we are going to approach this subject then first-things-first. We need to assess where we lack strength. In order to do so, we need to remain unbiased when looking at situations in which we place ourselves. Certain areas of insecurities deserve a deeper look, as those are usually a flag of what you perceive your flaw is. Some areas that could be worked on are feelings of jealousy or inferiority to others that you perceive strong or comfortable in their own skin. Most people attempt to hide this truth from others as well as themselves. But it is actually amplified through their actions. Passive aggressive behavior may ensue. Avoidance of the individual. While you attempt to hide these feelings, the world is watching. And trust me they notice.  
 
You may ask yourself why certain situations often turn out the way they do. If you see a reoccurring pattern then you may hit something that warrants further attention. Scrutinize what went wrong and why. Do you wish that it turned out better? How did your actions impact the outcome of the situation? Has this happened before? Why? If the instance has presented itself more than once it’s time to take a hard look and realize that you may have been the problem.  
 
Once your flaws have been defined, then we can accept them. The beauty of that is that now you know your perceived weakness and go on to make adjustments.  ​

Planning and Executing 
Now is the time to take action. LOL that sounded like a whole huge speech right there. But seriously, let’s work! You know your flaws, so now you know what sucks about you. We can make plans to change those feelings and work on improvement. Starting with small changes are often best. An accumulation of small changes turns into a big change that will mark a different and better you. In a world where quick gratification is often acquired, you must remain patient with yourself. Things like this will take time. It’s difficult to rush this type of process. The key is to stay focused and continue to take action.  
 
It is important to mention that while you are working on changing these flaws into strength, you will be in a state of vulnerability. The best part of the self-assessment process is that you know this. Therefore, you should take the time to set up a protective barrier in order to not leave yourself open to be targeted. Cover the flank prior to setting in motion your plan for change. This is extremely important. Most people have no problem coming for what they think will hurt you the most. In taking protective measures, you leave no opening to do so and can go about strengthening those flaws without worry.  ​

Connecting with Others 
This is my favorite part of this article right here. It gives you a glimpse of how I think so pay attention. The world has a way of establishing equilibrium. It creates balance where it sees fit. What does that mean for you? That means that there is always someone out there with a strength where you lack it. This is not for you to be afraid of, but for you to embrace. By connecting with an individual who has strength where you lack it, they can teach you how to exercise that flaw. You can learn how to work it to your advantage while that person covers your six. The key in this is to be open minded. You cannot be sitting there judging and critiquing everything that they do when they are pretty much winning in an area in which you are not. No bueno.  
Always remember that there is strength in numbers. So, you seeking guidance from others does not make you perceived as weak. It actually makes you look courageous and willing to conquer what you know is a problem. People will take notice. In the end, you become a better person for doing so. But you have to take the first step.  ​
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Concluding 
So you have flaws. We all do. If you have come to the end of this article, that means that you are willing to accept them and change them for the better. I commend you for your courage to conquer them. By taking the time for self-assessments, making a plan and executing it, and connecting with others, I believe that you may be off to a great start. I can’t wait to see the new and improved you. Good luck! ​