Written By: Yaritza Ellison
This past week has been very nice. I have been able to take some time to observe and reflect. In doing so, I have realized that sometimes we focus too much on a problem and it becomes bigger than what it really is. Our minds create problems rather than solutions if we are not careful. This is especially true when it comes to social interactions. We assume versus actually seeking to fully understand and therefore we unconsciously create something that was never really there in the first place. Therefore, the purpose of this article is aimed at improving these circumstances.
This may shock you, but drama is created first within you.
Yah I said it. Now let me explain it.
Initially, drama starts as a negative thought of another person. The thought may have been created due to a misconception, a perceived wrong from the individual, or it could have been influenced through way of gossip. People who lack humility often are subject to increased drama because they cannot set their ego aside in order to really understand the moving parts of any situation. These negative thoughts then lead into negative actions. Your body language gives you away, and you carry yourself differently around that person. You are sensitive to insults, and become highly defensive. Your insecurity spikes, and because of that you are more likely to lash out in anger. This has a devastating effect.
Effects of drama can be astounding if no intervention has been sought out. Inability to focus on tasks at work or at home are often seen. Racing thoughts may occur which lead to problems sleeping. You may cause bad relations between your coworkers, friends, and family. Often seen in later stages, depression sets in. You feel as though everyone and everything is against you. You may feel alone in a situation which could’ve been nothing, however, it was spun out of control.
Since the beginning starts with you, then self improvement is needed in order to change your situation for the better. My daughter definitely inspired the first resolution in this section :)
There will always be people who create drama around them, and other people who add to it. In order to maintain stability in your life, you should declare yourself free from those negative influences and focus on self improvement. Building a rich, for filling life has to be your main priority, not worrying about who said what and to whom. There should be no room for drama. Declare it, live it, and stay clear from it.
Yaritza Ellison has been an nurse since 2010. She has been essential to the healing process of many and seeks to continue to do so. Her passion for mental health and self help literature has lead her to launch justyari.org, where she aspires to coach young ladies navigating through work-life balance.